They need the dadosphere. Twenty-seven years teaching boys. Three children. One clear conviction: older men have an obligation to talk to younger ones.
I've watched boys become men. I've watched some of them struggle with what that means — buffeted between a culture that tells them masculinity is toxic and a manosphere that tells them the opposite. Both are wrong. And both are failing them.
The Dadosphere is for fathers, for men, and for boys. The writing is mostly aimed at fathers and men — people who are raising or working with young males and want to think seriously about what that means. The videos are aimed more directly at the boys themselves.
"You can't bullshit young blokes. They'll see it before you see it yourself. And they see it because they need to — they instinctively recognise someone seeking to connect with them, to value them."
Being a role model isn't easy. It's a full-time job. And we can't meet the standard we aim to impart with any regularity. It's at these times we need to own our failings and reaffirm ourselves — not just for the boys watching, but to give ourselves the licence to keep trying.
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A young man working in a bookstore who loves creating music. That warms my heart immeasurably. And it warms it more when I see what's behind it — the integrity of his father, and what that has done for him.
Read on Substack →Exposing your son to as much music as you can — the wilder and stranger the better — is a significant part of how he can come to unlock his emotional self.
Read on Substack →The problem isn't his policies. It's about whether a person possesses sufficient character to warrant our support in the eyes of our children.
Read on Substack →All writing lives on Substack — free, always.
Read all articles on SubstackThe videos are aimed more directly at boys and young men. Honest conversations about what it means to grow up male — without the performance, without the posturing.
Videos will always be free on YouTube. This isn't a course platform or a paid membership — it's a channel. Subscribe at youtube.com/@dadosphere and they'll find you when they're ready.
The writing and videos are free. But if you want me in the room — with your school, your parent group, your community organisation — that's a booking.
These sessions draw on 27 years of classroom experience with boys and young men, and an equally long career as a father thinking seriously about what male role modelling actually requires.
Available for: Schools (staff and/or parent evenings) · Parent groups · Community organisations · Men's groups · Youth organisations. All sessions tailored to the specific audience and context.
A direct, honest conversation about the landscape young men are navigating — the manosphere, Andrew Tate, online identity, male vulnerability — and what fathers and male figures can actually do about it.
Twenty years in all-boys schools distilled into a practical, honest seminar for teachers who work with boys — or who want to understand them better.
A smaller-group workshop for parents — primarily fathers — who want to think seriously about what it means to raise a boy in the current cultural moment.
Delivered directly to senior secondary students — honest, unscripted, no performance. The kind of conversation older men rarely have with younger ones, and should.
All sessions tailored to your group. Enquiries welcome.
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